I apologize for my lack of online presence – I know that I promised to frequently update my blog, but there came a time in Saudi where I assumed that it would be best to remove it. I met an old friend last night who asked me to start writing again, so here I am.
I took a break from the Middle East and travelled to South Africa. The thing about travelling is realizing that we live in a terrible world. That we, the westerners, who have been brought up with our iphones, play stations and big screen tvs live in a bubble that is in no way realistic. There is a level of naivety that is bred into every person who was born into “freedom” But I am not here to discuss the fact that our world is in turmoil, I am here to discuss the fact that regardless of the pain, the suffering, the poverty, the rat race, the health issues, the loss, we are all more concerned, and spend most of our energy on this thing called love.
Let me break it down for you – we are human – let’s try and just be logical for a second.
Let’s say that there is no big man in the sky, let’s say that when you die, you are just dead – that’s it, no heaven, no hell, no reincarnation, your heart simply stops beating and that’s it.
Accepting this concept – would you be living the life you are living now? I think most people will say that their answer is no, however it’s a concept that keeps me curious.
Why do we study? Why do we achieve? Why do we reproduce? Why do we own? Why do we make connections and relationships with other human beings? Legacy.
Noone wants to accept that they are so insignificant that once they are gone there will be no trace of them, that there will be nothing to prove that they ever were. Now if you are religious this may be fine because you have the promise of the afterlife, but we are being logical here.
My equation: more money = less religious belief less money = more religious belief
A father once told me that religion is an excuse that people struggling for cash use so that they don’t have to admit that they cannot provide for their family.
Also that using religion is the easy way of raising a child, it’s a book handed to you, the only book handed to you, teaching you what to teach a human being about the world, and more importantly, how to control them.
Having religious or cultural beliefs is fine, but when it comes to the matter of procreation, our basic human instinct, we must think of ourselves as humans and remove all other labels.
Why do men sleep with many women? Simply – they are born with an instinct to spread their seed, to breed, to leave behind their legacy. Why do women sleep with men? Same kind of thing, they are attracted to a certain trait that they would like to genetically steal from said man to improve the standing of their offspring in society – breed better, breed smarter, breed prettier, breed bigger, breed stronger.
So what has this got to do with love? Everything and nothing. Love is a chemical reaction in your brain when you meet someone of the opposite sex whom you subconsciously believe could potentially be a good breeding partner. Now humans have evolved somewhat, so the things that matter to some in terms of breeding have changed. Originally we were in the sticks so it was about breeding big and strong, because only the strong survived. Now we have built a world where strength is only admired by few and one can live their entire existence without ever needing to display any kind of physical strength to survive. The new strength is money. The idea remains the same. Power.
The smaller, physically weaker intelligent people over centuries have grown tired of the alpha male getting the girls so they created currency. They created social ranking, they created possessions, and social standards, none of which funnily enough celebrate strength. In fact the stigma attached to big strong men these days is that they are stupid.
What has this got to do with love? Everything and nothing. Who created marriage? Religion.
So for a second, as we are thinking logically, religion aside, why is there marriage? Why are there engagements? Girlfriends and boyfriends and fuck buddies and one night stands? Why do we call the same thing by so many different names?
You are my wife /husband – I own you. This is a concept that I have never really been able to get my head around – I thought that they abolished slavery? How is human ownership still such a prominent function in our society and so cleverly hidden and accepted?
How has anyone the right to own another human being? The rules of marriage – again, made by religion, so let’s pull religion out of it – what are the rules? What is the divorce rate again? Hmm I really don’t think that statistics are necessary here. What is the most common reasons for divorce? Infidelity and financial stresses.
So basically if you have sex with another human being, immediately and abruptly your spouse hates you, and wants to take everything that you own and you have to actually face a judge to prove why you should get to keep the things that you spent your life working for? Here is where you will hear the nay sayers cry “good they deserve it for cheating, it’s their fault, they ruined the marriage, the other party needs that money to rebuild their life and take care of their kids” Why was that party not working in the first place? Why does that person have to rebuild a life for him/herself? I like to call it prostitution.
It happens across both sexes these days – we can call it slavery, we can call it prostitution but basically, one party latches onto another party as a house pet, the same way a parasite does. I will sing and dance for you if you support me. It is a job, not a union. If this were a business, you would be an employee not a business partner.
Employees are expendable, partners less so. I hear people outraged about no fault divorce – so wait, you would rather force someone who no longer wanted to be with you, to stay with you unless you beat them, cheat on them sexually or did something else that broke the contract?
This is not “modern standard love” this is ownership – you work for me, you signed a contract, finish your contract or I’m taking you to the cleaners.
I am not saying that I do not believe that there is a love out there, but it’s not what is sold to us. Love is unconditional, you love someone, you want them to be happy and get whatever they want in the short time that they have on this earth. If you love someone, and they want to have sex with someone else, who are you to stop them? Why is it okay for men and women to have friends of the opposite sex, share time with them, share emotions with them, yet sex, the most natural human act, is the big no no – that’s where the flag gets waved?
It is the same with all aspects of life, not just sex. Why do two lives need to merge into one? Surely then the things that you admired about the person are no longer there, if they just become you – unless that’s what you want. If that’s the case you should have just bred with your cousin.
My belief about the raising rate of divorce comes in two components – one the fact that people care less about religion and ‘shaming the family” two – the internet. People have always had multiple sex partners, it just wasn’t plastered all over the internet for the world to see, and those who weren’t cheating just didn’t have any opportunity to meet anyone to cheat with. Now that the global world is as small as your iphone screen, there is even more of a reason for men to want to spread their seed, geographically and with different cultures.
No I am not saying that everyone cheats, or that is just men, infact sometimes you are so attracted to someone that they are the only one you want – that’s called lust, frequently mistaken again for love.
What is happening in the world is simple. Men used to have to be physically strong and mentally strong, and fight and hunt and work with their hands to provide for their families.
The role for woman was to be pretty and breed, sex is a given, and act like a lady.
Now the men are weaker, physically, and emotionally, and they have to manipulate to get ahead, be educated, socially active, and earn money.
Women now have to be physically stronger, emotionally stronger, and do all the things that men have to do plus bear children and be sweet and sensitive.
Here is the problem – where is the line between the genders? The only difference now is that men have a dangly thing and women have a hole.
So now, our bodies are confused – there are few men who do more than women, so what genetic benefit do they offer for breeding purposes?
Nil – So women keep searching – until they realize that their biologic clock is ticking out and they grab the first guy who is interested in them and that’s how we get all these ugly genetically deficient humans walking around. There is just no need for them. If you are not improving the standing of our species don’t breed!
People used to have to marry who they were arranged to marry by their parents, and this was in almost every country and every culture at some point. This generation is the first were we have the whole world to search for a partner to breed with, so there is a better chance of finding someone who offers an improvement on your genetic pool.
Now that choice comes into play, what we will end up with is the less intelligent weaker humans will breed at a higher rate with other weaker less intelligent humans, and the “hybrid humans” who are genetically blessed will search and search for that genetic match and have one or two children or none at.
Noone has ever had sex with a personality and no one ever will. So next time you think that you are in love, think about the genetic qualities in that person that you want in your offspring, and if you are egotistic, then you will be looking for someone just like you, because there is no improving on perfection. Personality does help fend off fear. If you admire the personality of your breeding partner than chances are that your offspring will inherit the same and therefore will be easy to understand and manage.
So in conclusion, if you don’t love someone unconditionally – you don’t love them – you want to own them or own their genetic pool for breeding purposes.
One day they will issue a license that gives you the right to reproduce, I look forward to that day.